When someone cares about you (really cares about you) and has invested time and effort into your relationship in a healthy balanced way, they know you intimately.
They know the small tell signs of when you feel a certain way without explicitly having to express it.
The small gestures you might make if you are uncomfortable, if you’re not talking as much because something is on your mind or even the different looks you give and what they mean.
When someone makes the effort to understand your every smile and can distinguish the difference between a real smile and a forced one that can truly be a beautiful thing.
Communication and verbalising how you feel to address issues is imperative to build and sustain healthy relationships. When someone is able to look past your reactions and understand the feelings or causes behind them they are emotionally investing in the relationship.
When someone helps you navigate through your feelings that can sometimes be overwhelming and is there for you regardless that is a green flag.
Using your words when done correctly and respectfully can have a powerful impact. However a large part of communication is done without words.
Its the facial expressions, the small movements we make, the fiddling with our hands or playing with our hair. If someone has taken the time and effort to understand these and responds to them willingly and with love that is someone that deserves space and time.
When someone close to you, that is a good presence in your life is expressing the above green flags embrace them.
They can have powerful healing effects and can keep your senses more sharp when coming across red flags.
Sometimes we can question peoples motives and intentions even if they haven’t let us down or given us reason to mistrust them because of our own past experiences.
Because we have been hurt and let down.
That’s okay too. It is always a good idea to go at your own pace but it is also equally important to acknowledge green flags, to see good traits when they are presented to you, to give people that have consistently shown positive effort and behaviour towards you a chance.
Don’t let past experiences hold you back from opening your heart to real meaningful and healthy connections.
Question things if you need to but hold onto the good parts within you that connects with the good nature of others and let your intuition guide you through that.
reflect. love. heal always
Brown Girl N