During this time of great uncertainty and the ever changing dynamics of the way we are living, we can choose to reflect, grow and make positive changes or we can get overwhelmed which will have really a negative impact on all the parts of us we are working on.
We hope you are safe and that your loved ones are safe, we also understand first hand the loss some of us have experienced and the difficulty of it all.
But we are in this together and hopefully we will come out stronger, wiser and kinder both to ourselves and others.
Working on and building boundaries usually happens during or as a result of challenging times that we are faced with.
This is a great time to work on your boundaries as you can stay away from the people that have a negative or detrimental effect on your self esteem and confidence, but also establish clear boundaries with the people we are in lock down with.
The focus should be you.
What feels right, what doesn’t and more importantly what and who you are responsible for.
Other peoples choices are a reflection of them as individuals regardless of your relationship to them.
You should not carry the burden nor fear the repercussions or consequences of others actions as a result of the choices they willingly and knowingly make.
Others reactions, actions or mistakes are not something you have to correct or carry the guilt of.
Because you are an individual and you are only responsible for the choices you make,
This does not mean that others choices will not have an effect or impact on you.
It is important to understand and realise that you had no part in making or preventing the choices of or for others. This can often be diffuclt particularly if you you feel the need to save others or fix their problems.
We cannot make choices for other.
We also cannot fix people or prevent them from making bad choices. In fact sometimes by doing this we become enablers and an unhealthy codependent relationship takes place which is unfair to both parties.
People make choices both good and bad and it is within those choices that enable us to grow and learn.
It is through the choices we make that we discover ourselves, and we have to let others do the same for themselves.
Take a step away when you feel the need to explain the choices of others or to protect them when they have made bad ones.
Put these boundaries in place so that others cannot project their bad choices on to you or blame you for their mistakes.
Because if you feel responsible for their choices you will often feel inclined to take on the responsibility of the outcome of these choices.
Be kind to yourself.
Work on being the best version of yourself and take responsibilty of the choices you make with confidence, reflection and nurturing your self esteem.
reflect. love. heal always
(Brown Girl N)