Being in a relationship is work, hard work and easy work. It can be fun and sometimes it can be the most opposite of fun.
As well as take you also have to give.
As well as talk you also have to listen.
As well as being taken care of you also have to provide.
As important as it is to feel special, you need to make sure you are acknowledging and caring for the other person also.
Everyone is different, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and we can all provide a unique contribution to a relationship.
As well as that our circumstances can also play a part in what and how much we devote to the relationship.
If one person is in a better financial position then gifts can be more lavish, if someone’s work hours are more flexible then more time can be given.
A relationship between two people can only grow and prosper when enriched from both parties.
What is not OK is when what is contributed to the relationship by one is not reciprocated by the other.
When the one who is the recipient of all the love, care, time and attention feels that s/he is worthy yet doesn’t feel the need to prioritise the other person.
When the gratitude has left the relationship a large part of acknowledgment, worth and value of the other person is lost.
When someone feels an entitlement in any relationship then in turn what they have actually done is taken away the rights of the other person.
Relationships are about give and take but it cannot take away from who you are nor should it give you a sense of low self esteem.
It should be doing the opposite, yes disagreements and arguments are a part of any relationships but they are the keys to opening doors of discovery about ourselves, each other and our relationship.
And to help our relationship grow stronger and healthier we need make sure we are feeding it with love, attention, acknowledgement, gratitude and devotion.
You are amazing, there is no other way to say this and you deserve the best from every relationship you have and at the same time, everything you do and have dedicate yourself to, should be acknowledged and appreciated.
So don’t let anyone dim your limelight or let you feel any less then how fabulous you actually are.
Reflect. Love. Heal
Brown Girl R